But sometimes bossy women with strong narcissistic traits obtain too much power. They guard their little fiefdoms and make life miserable for anybody who gets in their way or for any other woman whom they envy. The best way to avoid becoming a target is to keep your head down and to not get too involved in church activities and church committees. Be friendly to all and maintain a healthy detachment from parish politics.
You can usually distinguish a benign personality from the more malignant type by their actions. (By their fruits you shall know them.) A "church chick" who spells trouble will typically indulge in gossip, attempting to sow discord where ever she goes. She may also display a sense of entitlement. Give her a very wide berth.
Church is supposed to be a refuge, but often it's not. There is great spiritual disorder in the world at present, and this is just another manifestation.
For a discussion of female narcissism, please visit my female bullies blog.