Saturday, July 19, 2014

Ignoring the Wolves

Jesus told us we'd encounter wolves. At one point, there were many more than I ever imagined I'd meet, at church of all places. Our family was literally driven from our place of worship when a mobbing ensued. While this was going on, we stuck around longer than we should of, hoping everything would change. When it didn't, we made the fortunate decision to leave for good.

One of the priests seemed to know what was going on, but he was rather limited in his capacity to put an end to it. He was always very nice to us, and I'll always appreciate the fact he tried to do something. One of his homilies sticks in my mind. He told us that he was disappointed in some of the things he was seeing, and if anyone was confronted by wolves, to just ignore these beasts. "You don't even see them," he said. "Don't even look at them."

This advice was so right on because difficult people with malignant personalities were acting out. They were like unruly children, who needed to be ignored.

Although, back then, these individuals were larger than life, they are so insignificant now. So if you find yourself having to deal with church bullies, the best thing you can do is to carry on and not pay any attention to them. However, if the toxic environment is affecting your faith, or the faith of your family members, you probably need to think about leaving. In this case, don't try to fight it. You'll be much happier anywhere else.

For a discussion of female malignant narcissists, please visit my Female Bullies blog.

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