Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Looking for the Good in Others


I'll admit that it's difficult to try to look for the good in others immediately after experiencing a church-based mobbing. (Yes, believe it or not, mobbing, similar to what happens in the workplace can happen in a parish.) However, it's important to our spiritual progress to assume that people do have the best motives, while still maintaining a degree of vigilance, so that we don't get taken in by another con man (or woman.)

Oftentimes, the trouble is started by a highly deceitful individual with a moral disorder. He or she then manages to draw other people into the drama, in an effort to drive the target out of a particular parish.

Trusting people in the aftermath of a mobbing becomes challenging, because we certainly don't want to end up becoming a target of another narcissist. But it's something we still need to strive for. One way to protect ourselves going forward is not sharing personal information with people we don't know too well, even if it's fairly innocuous tidbits. Someone with a character flaw will run with anything and use it to discredit you. They can also twist the truth and incorporate vicious lies, which makes their stories more believable.

There are still many more good people in the world than there are predators. However, when you're in the midst of a mobbing, it certainly doesn't seem that way. Once you recover from the mobbing, you will start to see humanity in a much more positive light. And, once you establish much stronger personal boundaries, you seem to attract healthier people.

Don't let your faith be shaken by a pack of church-based bullies. God is in control and good will always prevail over evil.

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