Monday, March 16, 2015

Divine Mercy Chaplet for the Sick

Divine Mercy is a very good prayer to say for the sick and the dying. It is short, and it only takes a few minutes to finish an entire chaplet, which is said on a pair of regular Rosary beads.

This is a prayer I like to say every day for the people involved in a church-based mobbing that drove our family from our place of worship. This happened years ago, and we're now in a much better spiritual home. But I still like to write about our experience, in order to bring attention to this apparently widespread problem.

Bullying in church is real and, unfortunately, all too common. Oftentimes, the instigators are lay people who've seized positions of power. They may suffer from what the psychologists call personality disorders. However, the pastor may also have trouble relating to people.

If you decide to become heavily involved in a parish, you run the real risk of coming up against difficult personalities who may feel threatened by your presence. Or, they may realize that church is very important to you, and decide to make life difficult just because they can. This happens because we all suffer from the effects of original sin, and also because some people are so sick, in the soul, that they enjoy emotionally abusing others.

They are in most desperate need of our prayers. 

Divine Mercy is based upon a series of private conversations with Our Lord, as recorded by Saint Faustina Kowalska.This is a Church-approved devotion, and the chaplet is prayed all over the world at 3 pm, the Hour of Mercy. 

Please join your prayers with mine, for the poor troubled souls who misbehave in God's house. 

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Friday, March 6, 2015

Church Bullies - What They Do to Themselves

When you're in the midst of a church mobbing, it helps to remember one thing. Eventually, God will quiet the storm that's raging. You'll emerge stronger and closer to Our Lord. Your bullies, however, have cut themselves off from His grace. Unfortunately, they are so blinded that they cannot see the serious harm they've done to themselves.

In the long run, they sabotage only themselves. The lies, innuendo and false rumors ultimately don't hurt the target. Yes, it does cause a little short-term temporal pain. But, eventually, we move on, and we realize the people who weren't loyal, and didn't stop the mobbing, were not our true friends to begin with. Some of them even had some serious personality issues of their own.

Strangely enough, we find ourselves thankful that a gang of church bullies ran us out of our parish, because the environment was so toxic. It's true that some people thrive under those circumstances. But these are the ones who cause trouble for others, which means they jeopardize their own eternal salvation.

Psychological dynamics rarely happen in isolation. If someone hates one person, they likely have a history of hatefulness and a future filled with more hatred and scapegoating.

Yes, there is forgiveness in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. We sincerely hope that each and every Catholic Church bully avails themselves of this opportunity. However, Jesus is a just Judge. We will all have to account for our sins. This includes mistreating others, at church.

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